How to Give a Blowjob | Podcastbricks

Oral sex—especially giving a blowjob—can be a deeply intimate, connective, and pleasurable experience for both partners. Whether you’re a total beginner or someone looking to feel more confident or explore new techniques, this guide is here to help you feel informed, safe, and empowered.

1. Consent Is Everything

Before you do anything sexually with another person, consent is essential. This means:

Both people clearly want to be involved.
Both can communicate yes or no freely.
Either person can stop at any time.
There’s no pressure, guilt-tripping, or assumptions.

The best sexual experiences happen when both people feel safe and respected. Don’t skip this part—it’s the foundation of everything.

2. Know the Anatomy

You don’t need to be a doctor, but understanding what you’re working with helps. Here’s a quick breakdown of penile anatomy and what areas often feel good:

Glans (head): Sensitive, especially around the rim (coronal ridge). It can be very responsive to light licking and suction.
Frenulum: The small band of tissue under the head—very sensitive for most people.
Shaft: Varies in sensitivity, but can feel good with a warm mouth or hand.
Testicles (balls): Can be sensitive to touch, licking, or gentle sucking—but they’re delicate, so be careful.
Perineum: The area between the balls and anus. Some people love pressure or licking here.

Every body is different. What’s amazing for one person might be too much or not enough for another. So…

3. Communication Is Sexy

Talking about what feels good is not just helpful—it’s incredibly hot. Ask questions, pay attention to their body language, and be open to feedback. Try things like:

“Do you like it when I do this?”
“Tell me if you want more or less.”
“Show me what you like.”

You can even make it playful: “Let’s figure out what drives you wild.” This creates trust and builds anticipation.

4. Hygiene and Comfort

Oral sex involves intimate contact, so feeling clean and comfortable matters—for both of you.

Things to keep in mind:

Wash up first. A quick rinse or shower can boost confidence and reduce odor or taste concerns.
Trim or groom if desired. Not necessary, but some people feel more comfortable when things are tidy.
Fresh breath helps. Mint, mouthwash, or brushing your teeth beforehand makes things more pleasant.
STI protection: Use a condom or flavored dental dam if you or your partner prefer added protection. STIs can still be transmitted through oral sex.

Being clean doesn’t mean being flawless. Real bodies are real—and that’s beautiful.

5. Setting the Scene

Oral sex is about more than mechanics. The vibe matters too.

Slow it down. Kissing, teasing, eye contact, and anticipation make everything hotter.
Use your hands. Combine mouth and hand—especially if you’re not ready for deep oral.
Make them feel wanted. A little moaning, eye contact, or playful looks go a long way.
Create a relaxed space. Comfortable lighting, privacy, and time help both of you stay relaxed and focused.

6. Techniques and Tips

Let’s get into the practical stuff. These ideas aren’t rules—they’re options. Mix and match to see what works for you and your partner.

a. Use Your Tongue

Circle the head like you’re tracing a lollipop.
Flick or press your tongue against the frenulum.
Light licks up the shaft or over the tip can tease and excite.

b. Focus on the Head

Try sucking gently on just the tip.
Use your lips to glide over the glans while your hand strokes the shaft.
Swirling your tongue while sucking adds intensity.

c. Use Your Hand

Your hand can do what your mouth can’t—grip the base, twist, or pump in rhythm with your mouth.
Lube can help your hand glide more easily (saliva works, or try a flavored lube).
Try “two hands” if you want to add some visual wow factor.

d. Deep Throating (Optional)

Not necessary, but if you’re curious: start slow, breathe through your nose, and control the depth.
Try relaxing your throat or holding your tongue flat.
It’s okay to gag—it happens. Some people even find it hot. But never push yourself too far.

e. Explore the Balls and Perineum

Gently lick, suck, or massage the testicles.
Use your fingers to press or rub the perineum.
Some people like tongue pressure or licking here—ask first!

f. Add Rhythm and Variety

Switch up speed, pressure, and technique.
Pause, tease, build tension, then go back to something that was working.
Use moaning, eye contact, and breathing to add intensity.

7. Comfort and Confidence

Giving a blowjob can feel powerful, sexy, and fun—but only if you feel comfortable.

Take breaks. Let your jaw rest.
Find angles that work for you (lying down sideways, kneeling, or having your partner stand).
If something feels off or uncomfortable—stop. You’re allowed to take care of yourself.

Confidence doesn’t mean being perfect. It means feeling secure enough to enjoy the experience without pressure.

8. What About Finishing?

Let’s talk about ejaculation (aka “coming”).

Before you begin, talk about:

Where do they want to finish? (In your mouth? On you? Somewhere else?)
Are you okay with swallowing, spitting, or avoiding it altogether?

Tips:

If you’re okay with swallowing, try keeping the tip toward the back of your mouth and just relax.
If not, let it out discreetly into a tissue, towel, or hand.
If you don’t want them to finish in your mouth, let them know in advance—“Tell me when you’re close, okay?”

No one should be surprised. Clear, respectful boundaries are everything.

9. Myths and Real Talk

There are so many myths about blowjobs. Let’s bust a few:

You have to deep throat to be good at it. False. Pleasure doesn’t depend on going deep.
All men love the same thing. Nope. People are different. Communication is key.
It’s degrading. Only if it’s done without respect. Otherwise, it can be intimate, generous, and mutual.
You should ignore your comfort. Never. If something hurts, feels wrong, or makes you uncomfortable—pause or stop.

10. Keep Exploring

A great blowjob isn’t just about skill—it’s about being present, playful, and open. You don’t have to know everything. You don’t have to impress anyone. Learn together. Laugh if something funny happens. Be curious.

Here are a few ways to explore further:

Read together: books on oral sex, intimacy, or erotic communication.
Watch ethical, educational adult content (like from platforms that focus on consent and real pleasure).
Try mutual oral or mix it into longer foreplay.
Talk about fantasies or try roleplay.

Final Thoughts: Giving Pleasure Can Be a Gift

At the end of the day, a blowjob isn’t just a “thing you do”—it can be a deeply personal act of pleasure and trust. It’s okay to want to please your partner. It’s okay to want to feel sexy doing it. And it’s okay to say “not for me” or to change your mind at any point.

Being a good lover isn’t about tricks or stamina. It’s about listening, caring, and showing up with openness and curiosity.

Take your time. Communicate. Explore. Enjoy.